Sometimes in life, we need to change our attitudes and the way we view the world in other to forge ahead and make headway.
I realized that transforming one’s life is not totally dependent on how many motivational talks one listens to, but conscious efforts to reflect on one’s life and make adjustments where necessary.
I got to a point in my life where I discovered that leading a meaningful life and attaining greater heights comes with discipline and determination.
I knew I had to quit doing things that I realized were pressing me down or making me stagnant, if you desire growth in life, go through these list and stop doing them too.
- Stop taking criticisms personally
I used to be scared of feedback. I didn’t like it when people criticize me.
My life got better when I stopped taking people’s opinions personally. I instead reflect on these opinions and improve on the good ones and do better on the negative ones.
- Stop leaning on your own understanding and sought mentors
You need mentors to go far in life. Mentors in different aspects of life – career, finance, personal life, spiritual, and even marital.
Mentors provide you with the necessary guidance you need to make better decisions.
This will save you from avoidable mistakes because you learn from your mentors’ mistakes. You climb on their shoulders to rise.
They say experience is the best teacher, but it doesn’t have to be your experience. Also, learning from personal experiences could be costly.
My life got better since I learned to consult great minds who have gone ahead of me in different aspects of life before I make decisions. I’m saved from making avoidable painful mistakes. Get yourself a mentor today, and save yourself from some costly mistakes.
- Stop being negative
I used to be pessimistic. It took a lot for me to see a ray of light in any situation. I understand that it’s good to be realistic, but I focused too much on the dark sides of things than the positive sides.
When I realized my negativity was costing me a lot of opportunities, I decided to stop being negative. I worked at being optimistic. Not only that, I stayed away from the negative people around me. Because negative energy is contagious. You can also do this, it will fast track your sojourn.
- Stop setting unrealistic goals
It’s good to be ambitious and goal-oriented. However, setting unrealistic goals is simply a recipe for disaster and disappointment.
For instance, setting financial goals that you knew your monthly earnings would never make happen is unrealistic.
You would be shocked how your life will be transformed if you begin to stay true to myself and your circumstances. Don’t live a fake life!
Set short-term and long-term goals for yourself and work towards achieving them at your own pace.
- Stop seeing failure as the end of the road
But truth is, failure is part of success. Failure is an opportunity to learn to do things in a different or better way.
Your life will change tremendously, the sooner you realize this and stop defining yourself by your failures, and start seeing failure as a pathway to knowledge.
- Stop spending so much time on social media
Technological advancements have improved the quality of life by helping us to stay connected to our loved ones and even form new connections.
So, we are grateful for our phones and social media.
However, addiction to social media has led to a variety of problems in the present world – unnecessary jealousy, competition, depression, low productivity, distractions etc.
Truth be told, A lot of us are suffering from almost all of these symptoms. My dear, it’s high time you limited the time you spend on social media.
You will be amazed at how your life will be shaped.
- Stop prioritizing the needs of others over yours.
Kindness/putting others first is an amazing attribute that makes the world a better place to live in.
However, doing this every time at the expense of one’s well-being isn’t always a good thing.
Women are usually guilty of this. They take care of everyone but themselves until their bodies start to protest.
I learnt that I can give my best to others only when I’m well myself.
My life changed when I started making myself a priority. I stopped putting myself in difficult situations to please others. I stopped saying “Yes” to every request. I stopped living to please others, Try this too, it will help you a lot.
- Stop underrating underrating myself
Every individual is blessed with a unique ability(abilities). But a lot of people are doubting Thomas. Why are you doubting your ability?😂
Many people aren’t confident enough in their abilities.
It is high time you realized that this self-sabotaging belief would limit your life, and begin to acquire skills and knowledge to sharpen your abilities.
This will give you the needed confidence to maximize your potentials.
- Stop wasting your money on frivolities
It’s okay to love the good things of life.
Wisdom is knowing how to enjoy the good things of life without becoming a financial wreck.
I used to be a shopaholic, always buying things on Jumia. Things I would probably never use or even throw away in a few months.
When I realized my spending habits would ruin my financial goals, I gave myself a pep talk and started saving and budgeting.
With budgeting, I can enjoy the good things of life without feeling guilty or running into debt, try this too.
- Excuse the company of unlike minds
“Show me your friend, and I’ll tell you who you are.”
You are who you associate with. You can’t be better than your association. Birds of a feather flock together.
If you want your life to improve, make a decision now to stay away from every form of toxic relationship,
- Stop comparing my journey to others
While it’s good to learn from other people’s journey and success, comparing yourself to others never amounts to anything good.
It only leads to unnecessary competition, feelings of underachievement, and even depression.
You will be shocked at how peaceful you will be if you stop putting pressure on yourself because of other people’s results. and rather learn from them and focus on your own life.
Everyone has a different race to run. You can never run your race well if you’re focused on another person’s race.
- Stop commenting on every issue
I started saving a lot of time and energy when I understood that I didn’t have to respond to every matter.
I now choose my battles wisely. Not every opinion or issue deserves my reaction, Be like me.
13. Stop procrastinating
Procrastination is indeed the thief of time and opportunities.
Procrastination has cost many people, a lot of opportunities. If you are guilty of this, it’s high time you stopped it.
If you want to be super productive in life and achieve great things, work on these few things that I listed and I can assure you if great successes. I wish you all the best.
Don’t expect a drastic change. As you take baby steps, you’ll become the person you desire to be in no time.
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